If you have no destination in mind, any direction is will work.
We detect rather than invent our mission in life. – Victor Frankl
The old carpenter adage of measuring twice, cutting once reminds us to consider our outcomes before we commit to a decision. Knowing where we are headed on a journey keeps us from heading down the wrong road. Each time we remind our kids about how they are gifted, talented, and unique sends the message that they have a purpose in life and our family, school, and the community would be less without them. Beginning with the end in mind does more than providing a mission and a vision, it can help us to say “no” to the many directions in life that can lead us astray.
Common Thinkers vs. Highly Effective Thinkers
I can’t predict how my life will turn out, so I just go with the flow. (VS) I clearly define my vision and purpose in life and what behaviors will make a difference.
I get started without a clear idea of what I want to achieve. (VS)
I define outcomes before I act.
I let others’ agendas and circumstances define how I live my life. (VS)
I create and live by a personal mission statement.
Happiness and success are not accidents. People who live intentionally achieve the results they want. Being proactive is only the first step in success. Designing a plan that maps the success we hope for is not just effective, it is efficient. Each time our kids set their sights on success and are regularly reminded of goals, the more they take charge of personal achievement and not are subject to the shifting winds of peers and circumstances.
Thinkers who know their mission and practice the habits that lead to the mission are very likely to achieve. Our role as parents and educators is to put the signs up that remind them of their goal and encourage their success with boundaries that will push them back on track. Having conversations with our kids about their short term and long term hopes and dreams are the first steps toward achievement. A mental picture proceeds a physical creation. Take the time to ask your child about his/her goals as they relate to the heart, mind, body, and soul elements of life. Use good questions to help your child find the right answers.
Heart – What defines a “best” friend?
Mind – What things do you love to learn?
Body – How healthy do you want to be in ** years?
Soul – What personal gifts and talents are you most happy about?